Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love. - Charlie Brown

Happy Valentine's day.

For a fantastic post on Valentine's Day, visit Lauren.

I'm posting some rants, that many of you have read before, but I think they are important, and so I'm opening them up to the masses.

1. I hate it when women think that because they do not have a significant other they are a loser, or some other forms of self-deprication. Men/Partners do not make a person. Personality, compassion, caring, self-respect, respect for others, and numerous other things make a woman who she is. You do not need to be involved in a romantic relationship in order to be a non-loser. You need to know that you are a good enough person as you are, and that you care about others, and their feelings, and you need to make yourself matter to yourself, and no one else.

I'm about as far as you can get from a feminist. I want to get married, (someday, not now, nobody panic) I want to have a nice home, and I don't need to be in competition salary-wise with my significant other.

But, I hate the way women are objectified and treated in society. I hate that no matter how far we've come, there is always going to be farther to go. I hate that women are made to feel that no matter what they look like, they aren't good enough.

2. Women who wear a size 8 or 10 are NOT plus-sized. They are NOT “big and beautiful.” Yes, they are gorgeous, healthy women who are built the way women are supposed to be built, they have curves, and they have a healthy body weight. They are perfect. And fashion magazines and fashion designers and Hollywood need to stop telling them that they are fat, and plus-sized. They are not. Also, skinny women are sometimes just skinny because that is how they're built, it doesn't mean they have an eating disorder.

The "media" needs to take a look around. The average dress/pant size for a woman in america is a 14. Not a 'zero' as they appear to believe based on the publications produced by the fashion industry. How can you even have a zero? isn't zero nothing? Do those women not exist? Or are they just not wearing clothing? *confused*


3. I hate it when women are mocked for making the career decision of their choice.

A friend of mine recently got pregnant after trying for 6 years, and being in the middle of the, now-on-hold, adoption process. She has chosen to stay home and raise her children, as her husband easily makes enought money to support them. A co-worker said to her:
"I can't believe you're just going to sit at home, women fought for years so that you could work outside the home, and you're wasting it."

NONONONONONONONO.

Women fought for years so that women would have the choice to work outside the home. There is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing to stay home and raise your children.

this is not how I would choose to spend my life, but women fought for a choice. Do not persecute someone for exercising their choice.

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4. I hate it when, young, attractive, smart women think they need to beg for attention.

I hate it that our society places such a huge value on what a person looks like versus what a person acts like, how they treat others and what kind of person they are.

I hate it that young women become so lonely and deperate for attention and affection that they change who they are in order to subscribe to a societal ideal of what is right.

You know what? Its not ok to slut around. yes, if you're making the decision to sleep with some guy/girl because you want to, thats one thing, but not because you're deperate for affection. It's not ok to let someone else tell you how you should be so that they love you. Its not ok to let someone treat you horribly because you're lonely and just want to be loved.

Society needs to pull the stick out of its ass and be happy with people the way they are and to stop putting pressures on young women (everyone, really, but young women are uber pressured to conform) to conform to a body type, an intelligence level and an incorrect ideal of how women should look, act and feel.

discuss.